New Dimensions Café hosts Moore podcast
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News about contemporary American writer of Care of the Soul, A Religion of One's Own, and Gospel: The Book of Matthew.
Labels: Thomas Moore
"I believe paradox is at the heart of the spiritual life. Lose your life to find it, says Jesus, and my own life and that of many folks I know attest to this unwelcome yet exhilarating truth.The Barque sidebar gives a registration link for Moore's May 10 event.
Moore has written of the "antithetical" self, something so different from our normal sense of ourselves that we often "feel both conflict and resource" in relation to this thing that makes us feel passionate. He explains: "We may each have an idea of who we should be, knowing the seeds of a self for many years. But our idea of who we are and the direction we ought to go may be entirely thwarted by circumstances and fate. We may discover that we are most ourselves when we are furthest from the self we think we ought to be."
Let that sink in. What might the implications be for your life? Is there some way you surprise yourself, do things that are not "like you" that move you deeply?"
"Moore will explore how people deal with depression, betrayal and the loss of meaning in their lives, and will talk about how to create a "soulful" life in modern America...Jenne will perform at 6 p.m., followed by author discussions from 7 to 9 p.m. For tickets ($15 in advance and $20 on Saturday) call 802 476-8188 or visit the Barre Opera House site. This is a benefit program for the Vermont chapter of the American Cancer Society.
The trio has been assembled by Amy Miller, a psychiatric nurse practitioner in private practice and host of the CVTV show "Connect With Amy Miller."
"... get in touch with any feelings you have for freedom: not necessarily freedom to be with other men, but freedom to have some life experience that is not associated with your husband. You can live a monogamous lifestyle within your marriage, but practice freedom in another area of your life. Ask your husband to do the same – to imagine an area of his life outside of the marriage where he wants to feel a sense of dedication and "monogamy."He concludes,
From this exercise, you will probably discover that the desire to be monogamous and the desire for freedom, from too tight a coupling, can exist in each member of a relationship. It can even be an aspect of the relationship itself. Then these two polar emotions influence each other, keeping the relationship from being too cramping and at the same time allowing livable limits. If you are moralistic about monogamy, feeling righteous in your purity and judgmental about your partner, then you risk sending him off into the extremes of "freedom," which to him means cheating."
"I think it's also important for you to listen to your thoughts and honestly ask yourself if there is anything you are doing to contribute to a stifling or jealousy-based feeling [in] the relationship.
The desire to have one faithful lover and the longing to experiment and explore are two natural emotions that any good person might feel. You don't have to push either to extremes. You can tweak each one, allowing a little room in the definition of commitment and allowing some limits on the need to explore. Keep each feeling subtle, interesting, flexible, complex, and forgiving."
"A job is key," Moore said. "If you're unhappy, everything else is going to fall apart. It's the happiness that holds it all together." The father of two stresses that the book is not about finding the right job; rather it speaks to the process of finding your life's work, and discovering what makes life worthwhile.Moore mentions that while home schooling his daughter, he tries "to stay sensitive to her interests and talent."
Commonly, Moore will find that a person is stuck in job that is unsatisfying, yet the person is too attached to it to move on. Change, he says, is key to moving on to bigger and better things. "Finding a satisfying job is a lifelong thing," Moore said. "It takes a long time to find. Some people can't give up that security that ties them down. You need to experiment and experience failures to do it. As long as you're on your way, you can find satisfying work."
The author feels that the work he does now is both self-fulfilling and satisfying. "I didn't become a writer until I was 50," Moore said. "I can't think of a job I'd rather do. I do keep myself open, because you never know what's going to happen next."